Monday, October 6, 2014


Umamazala wam ukhohla-kele.
That means mamazala is evil, and these are the words that come from a makoti’s mouth.
And in many cases there is good reason for these words.
Mamazalas often make the lives of their daughters-in-law a living hell as they try and turn them into their personal slaves.
It’s one thing if they ask the makoti to help out with something here and there around the house, but it’s another to make her wake up at dawn to sweep the yard, make the tea, make the beds and do the washing for whole family as well.
Some mamazalas even go as far as insulting or disrespecting their makotis all the time.
Maybe the plan is to frustrate her and drive her out of her son’s life – and t hat’s simply evil!
These mothers-in-law carry out all sorts of tricks to push the makotis out of the way because they see them as the women who stole their sons.
Mamazalas are often worried sons will stop giving them money and – worst of all, stop visiting!
Please, mawe, let go! Your boy is now a man and he has to take care of his woman and their kids.
And, mamazala, difficult as it is, you must get used to the idea that the poor makoti didn’t steal your son away from you – he went willingly!
She loves him and he loves her. Yes, you might see her as the woman he will spend all his money on, but you have to stop competing with your daughter-in-law.
There is no competition. If it was a competition he would probably choose his woman over you.
I know that sounds cruel and you can claim that you carried him for nine months and raised him so that some other woman would want him but the fact remains, the makoti stole his heart.
Your baby-boy is now all grown up and has a woman in his life. Your evil ways will only push your son away and make your makoti hate you even more.
Get a life, mama! Accept the fact that your boy is a man. If you don’t, you’ll end up chasing him away and you will never see him and lose out on seeing your grandkids. Embrace your makoti, mama, ngiyaxela.